Many teachers don’t care about the stress they put on children as much as they should. This often leads to a dysfunctional teacher-pupil relation and even to problems between parents and their children.
If you’re a teacher, you should be familiar with these 10 situations in which children become excessively stressed out. Avoid them at all costs.
Top 10 Situations to Try to Mend
1. Having bullies in the school
This kind of behavior should not be tolerated. Bullying is not only stressful, it is traumatizing. No matter how innocuous the situation looks like, you should not tolerate bullies in the classroom and the school should eliminate them.
2. Getting too much homework
Yes, they’re there to learn, but there’s something called “too much”… Don’t put too much on their plate.
3. Favoring some pupils
As a teacher, you should not favor pupils over others. Or if you do, don’t make it obvious. It’s human not to like all people in the world but don’t shot it. The others will feel not only stressed out but useless.
4. Being scared into learning
Unfortunately, there are teachers who use the scare tactic, even though it’s the 21st century. This will create a lot of anxiety, which is stress times 1 million. Use patience, not fear.
5. Not having a clean-cut future
Pupils should always work towards something. If they don’t have an objective, they’ll feel less valuable than the ones that do. Try to instill a perspective in them. See what their talents are and make them focus on them, instead of enforcing something on them.
6. Not knowing what college to go to
If possible, try to help them out. Again, single out their talents and give them a few options. Not all pupils know what they want to become. You should not make them feel ashamed of them.
Give them a boost instead. At some point in your life, you had no idea what college to go to, either, isn’t it? You pulled it through, didn’t you? Of course, but you got a lot of support from your teachers, parents, etc.
7. Being overscheduled
When they are, they start doing all-nighters, which means they lose a lot of rest. They’ll get tired in class and guess who’ll reprimand them for not paying attention? Precisely the one thanks to whom they spend their nights studying instead of sleeping.
Also, try to give them assignments that incite their imagination, not put it out. This is extremely frustrating. The problem with modern education is that it leaves little to no room for imaginative accomplishments. Go against the grain.
8.Being in a class where “perfectionism” is king
Perfectionism is absolutely groundless because there is no such thing as perfection. Teaching children that they all need to excel is simply unrealistic. Teach them that the more they learn, the greater their chances of succeeding are.
Most of all, teach them that learning is fun, above anything else. It’s a chore only if you want it to be, not by default.
9. Social factors
Kids need to feel cool. They do so by following the fashion trends, surfing the net and being on Facebook 24/7, among many others. Take these into consideration the next time you speak to them.
Learn to listen to their side of the story, not just tell them yours. You come from different generations that are clashing at best. Don’t put even more stress on them by pointing to fashion fads and other things that don’t matter in the least.
10. Being in an environment that kills their self-esteem
This can be disastrous because it often has life-long consequences. Nobody is valueless, and you should underline that every time you get the chance to.
As you can see, the school puts more stress on children than you thought. If you want to really make a difference in their lives, listen to them and try to usher them towards an objective that suits them.
I hope you’ve found this info handy. Of course, there are a lot more dangers to the psyche of children in school, but we’ll get to all of them gradually, as we go.